Why does it seem like gay guys like to perform in the theater more than straight guys? Why do so many like to sing on stage? And why do a lot of them talk and talk and talk until there is nothing left to talk about, and then proceed to talk about nothing? I've been giving these questions a lot of thought lately and ended up answering them with two more questions... What is it that a severely repressed people would lack? They would lack freedom of expression. What do the theater, vocal performances, and constant chattering provide? ... Avenues of expression. "If this is true," I thought, "then why do I hate acting, singing, and why am I a quiet person, a minimalist when it comes to talking?" Then I remembered this website, and the first thing that came to my mind after I acquainted expression and repression... I thought, "I've got to write this down." Writing is my avenue, something I've always taken very seriously.

To be fair here, I guess I should say that there are all sorts of gay people: feminine females and more masculine females, and masculine males and some feminine males; and I'm not saying that any one is better than any other. I have tried dating feminine guys before, slightly flaming, and I ended up having trouble falling for them. It's like a gay paradox; gay guys are attracted to guys, but we've also been given these qualities that are more feminine (whether it be smaller bone structure, or female mannerisms, or higher voices, or maybe just an enhanced sense of fashion. ;) ), but these qualities would supposedly make us less attractive to the gay guys we're trying to attract. The smaller bone structure and the homosexuality are definitely genetic, but what if some mannerisms are modeled after straight people? Wouldn't it make sense that throughout the life of a homosexual male, he was observing how the highly feminine girls (cheerleaders and such) were always irresistible to the guys? This world teaches us through media and first hand experience that those blond girly Swedish feminine things are practically universally attractive to straight males... so I'm saying that maybe the flamers subconsciously picked up on that. It's a very good idea from a logical standpoint; gay guys like men, so some model themselves in the image of the people who are most effective at attracting men - those 'lean mean blond Swedish machine' women. That theory doesn't take into account how innate those feminine qualities are in feminine gay males though, and I don't think it's very fair to say they are a learned response... I mean, maybe that "You go girlfriend" thing is learned, but the underlying genetic causes for acting feminine are way deeper than just watching a few episodes of Ricky Lake. We must stand-up for our diversity as a people as well as the cause as a whole, which includes our feminine, our masculine, and everyone in between.

When a people are repressed about an issue such as sexuality, when they can't express to their friends, family, and acquaintances that they find a person attractive, when they can't talk about sex or sexiness at all, that person is stripped of a significant portion of what it means to be human. Sexuality is a VERY large part of humanity, and when it is repressed, externally (and even more damagingly internally) you're going to end up with people who, when they finally accept themselves, publicize their sexuality, just like straight people always have. Some straight people get angry, they say that homosexuals are "gaying everything up." They say that homosexuals are shamelessly flaunting their sexuality, and they're sick of it... I think they're frustrated, aggravated that they can't sweep homosexuals under the rug like they always have in the past, annoyed because they're having to reexamine themselves (and we all dislike realizing that we've been wrong). Realizing that what they've been doing, the way that they have treated homosexuals, and the way that society has justified it, was the only immorality. I don't think repression has caused gay people to amplify their mannerisms, I think that the straight world is just learning how to live with gay people. They're learning what "gay" truly is, and sometimes I think that the discomfort that some straight people have is caused by the fact that the existence of gay people, openly, redefines the typical gender stereotype lines... and that is a dangerous path to tread since western society has so long prized the stark division of men and women - the (traditionally) dominating and the dominated. What do people do then when the mere existence of a open homosexual blurs those prized gender role lines? They become afraid, and then get angry, and then we label them "homophobes" since their confusion makes life harder on homosexuals.